Like Crazy: Life with My Mother and Her Invisible Friends

In the tradition of
The End of Your Life Book Club
and Bettyville, this uplifting, funny, and heartbreaking memoir about a mother and son on a journey of self-discovery and the rag-tag community that rallied together to support the most unconventional of mothers as she entered the last phase of her life.

Dan Mathews knew that his eccentric mother, Perry Lawrence, was outspoken, foul-mouthed, and, at seventy-nine years old, unable to maintain her fiercely independent lifestyle—so he flew her across the country (with a gay man as her escort) to live with him in a dilapidated Victorian townhouse in Portsmouth, Virginia. What he didn’t know was that she was schizophrenic.

Over the next five years, Dan and Perry built a rollicking life together fueled by costume parties, experiments in drug use, and an unshakeable sense of humor as they faced down illness, natural disasters, and Perry’s steady decline. With the help of an ever-expanding circle of friends—boyfriends new and old, strippers, DJs, gun nuts, Evangelical Christians, and everyone in between—they flipped the parent-child relationship on its head, with the globe-trotting animal rights activist finally learning to slow down and care for the woman who raised him.

But it wasn’t until after a kicking-and-screaming trip to the emergency room that Dan discovered that his mother’s lifelong tendency to go it alone wasn’t just a manifestation of her free spirit but was actually the inescapable element of a serious and undiagnosed disorder.

Witty, emotionally powerful, and deeply moving, Like Crazy is a warm and engrossing memoir about mental illness, reinvention, and the remarkable power of community. Lovingly told, Mathews’s memoir is also a profound meditation on the joys and pitfalls of caring for an aging family member and of the remarkable growth that takes place as a child steps into the role of the parent.